What's The Difference Between Extraction and Expansion? How Do We Unhook Ourselves From The Unconscious Pace Of Depletion?

We don’t always realise that we are living in a state of extraction.

It can feel like “that’s just how life is”.

Fast and full and scattered.

A subtle hum of urgency that is always driving us.

Always moving and trying to keep up.

It can feel like pressure.

Tight.

Urgent.

This way of living quite often leads to burnout - and - it’s not our fault!

Most of us live in a culture of extraction without even realising it. 

This is the water we are swimming in, so it just seems normal, but it is unconsciously driving us (and depleting us)…….

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Transactional Care Versus Relational Care - What Is The Difference and Why Does It Matter?

There is a subtle, yet powerful difference emerging in the world of healing, coaching, and service - and it’s one that deeply affects how safe, seen, and supported people feel in wellness spaces.

The difference is between Transactional Care and Relational Care.

One is rooted in performance and outcomes  and the other is rooted in presence and humanity.

Let’s break it down….

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Judgement or Discernment? How To Tell The Difference.

There is a difference between judgement and discernment and in a world obsessed with positivity, I think it’s important to understand the difference. Especially when we are naming what is out of alignment and speaking our truth.

Judgement arises from ego and separation. It is about making the other wrong in order to make ourselves right. It seeks to protect the self through superiority, blame or righteousness. It is reactive and rigid and often rooted in unprocessed pain……

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Motion Is Lotion: Creating Flow and Ease in the Body at Midlife

They say motion is lotion - and never has it felt more true for me at midlife.

As we move through our forties, fifties, and beyond, our relationship with our bodies begin to shift.  Things start to creak and moan and we might feel stiffer in the mornings or notice that recovery from exercise takes longer.

But midlife is not the end of vitality and mobility  - it’s the invitation to tend to our bodies more consciously.

With the average life expectancy in Australia now hovering around 85 years, many of us still have decades of living ahead of us. For me that’s another 30 years! That’s a long time to inhabit this body - and we want it to feel good and to carry us with ease, steadiness and vitality……

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The Social Media Machine and Why You Don't See Me There Much

Social media can be one of the most brilliant tools we have. 

It can spark connection, creativity and visibility.

It gives us ways to share our voice, our art and our working in ways that we never thought possible 20 years ago.

And I’ve used it for all of those things for which I’m grateful.

My daughter sends me the most hilarious reels all the time. 

But now I honestly think it has changed in so many ways, and it doesn’t feel good for me personally. What once felt like a space for meaningful connection has, in many ways, become a machine - one that feeds on performance, algorithms, and constant output…….

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What Is An Invocation - and Why it Matters in Spiritual Practice

An invocation is a sacred act of calling in.

It is an intentional act where we slow down, pause, and consciously open ourselves to qualities we wish to remember, embody, or cultivate.

In many spiritual traditions, invocation is not just about asking for something - it’s about entering into relationship. With the Divine. With the deeper Self.

To invoke is to invite something sacred into our awareness. Where we step out of the mundane and into the mystical…….

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11 Things I Wish I Could Have Told My Younger Self

1. No-one Will Ever Know You Better Than Yourself

You will spend many years looking outside of yourself for answers - seeking validation, following people’s advice and at times even doubting your own inner voice. You are the one who lives in your body, who feels what you feel, who sees the world through your own unique eyes and perspective. Trust yourself  - you are wiser than you think.

2. Your Sensitivity Is A Gift Not A Weakness

There will be times when you feel like you are “too much” - too intense, too emotional, too affected by the world - but your sensitivity is a gift, not a flaw. It allows you to feel deeply and connect in ways that others cannot. The world needs sensitive souls and you must learn to honor it, not hide or shrink……

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Lessons From Netflix series Adolescence and Andrew Tate - Reflections from the Mother of a 20 yr old son

This is very personal as a mother of a 20 year old son. I felt a deep sadness that I couldn’t quite shake after watching this short series. (I felt exactly the same way after I read the book, “The New Manhood” by Steve Biddulph, a few years ago and I have much to say about Andrew Tate 😡).

I honestly feel a profound grief for the boy inside my son, the lost boys in our communities, the boys who are growing up in a culture, that too often fails to see them clearly or hold them with tenderness. Underneath it all, I am personally trying to make sense of a world that feels increasingly disconnected from what boys truly need…….

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The Difference Between Privilege and Entitlement

I’ve been sitting with this inquiry for a few years now - watching it show up in conversations, social media and personal experiences.  

Writing is the way I process what feels complex or unnamed and helps me find language for what feels true (to me) and, I genuinely hope it can help others see things that might be felt but not named.

In today’s world there is a-lot of talk about power, inequality and healing, and words such as privilege and entitlement often get used and sometimes interchangeably.

But they are not the same.

And understanding the difference matters - especially in conversations about justice, compassion and responsibility.

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The Pendulum Of Restriction and How I Found The Middle Way

For so long, my life was ruled by extremes.

The pendulum always swinging violently between restriction and excess.

Between control and chaos.

I lived in a cycle of self denial and punishment believing that the only way to be worthy was to shrink myself - physically, mentally and emotionally.

Restriction felt like discipline. It felt like control. It felt like safety- until it didn’t.

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How We Hold Space Matters! A Reflection on Trauma Informed and Nervous System Care when guiding others in healing spaces

As I prepare to bring my new programme The Sovereign Woman into the world, I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to really hold a safe space in a grounded and embodied way.

Holding space is not a performance.

It’s not something we learn from a weekend worship and then add it to our instagram bio.

It is life long work and carries with it a deep responsibility and commitment to doing our own inner work before guiding others through theirs.

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